If there’s one thing I learned in 2017, it’s that life can change in an instant. I originally came across this article sometime last year and was touched by the author’s words. A couple of days ago it popped back into my newsfeed and as I read it again, it resonated on a much more personal level.
As I was reading it, I was struck by this question:
“As a mother, as a parent, as someone who walks this earth and interacts with others, I ask you to ask yourself: What will be said about you when you are gone?
Are you kind? Are you gentle? Are you giving? Are you loving?”
In the first days, weeks even, when we didn’t know what would happen with my mom, I would find myself describing her to the nurses and doctors taking care of her. Those words are exactly how I described her to them. She is the kindest, sweetest, most loving and giving person I know, and I wanted them to know that too.
But can the same be said about me? If I’m basing it on the last year, I am ashamed to admit that the answer would probably be no.
2017 was a tough year. I was still struggling to feel like myself again after having Olivia and going through a rough postpartum period. Our dog of 10 years passed away. Then my mom suffered a devastating stroke and, while she has improved significantly, we still don’t know what her final outcome will be. All of this led to increased anxiety and stress for me. Stress that I allowed to rob me of my happiness and patience and gentleness with the ones I love most.
So in 2018, I am working on living with patience, kindness, and gentleness, and on being happy and grateful even when life isn’t perfect. Because, like the author says, “life doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be perfect.” I am so blessed with my little family and I don’t want to take life with them for granted, because I know how quickly it can change.
I wish you health, happiness and lots of love in the new year.
Thanks for stopping by! xx